Your job is to love your man, not babysit him! You can’t spend your life trying to guard against what could happen if he’s left alone. The unpopular truth is that a man will always do what he wants to do, and if your love isn’t enough to discipline him, then it’s misplaced on him!
With that being said:The sad truth is that there are some people who will only be there for you as long as you have something they need. When you no longer serve a purpose to them, they will leave. The good news is, if you tough it out, you’ll eventually weed these people out of your life and be left with some great people you can count on. We rarely lose friends and lovers, we just gradually figure out who our real ones are. So when people walk away from you, let them go. Your destiny is never tied to anyone who leaves you. It doesn’t mean they are bad people; it just means that their part in your story is over. So retire them…
Trust in the Lord and do good; dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture. Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord; trust in Him and He will do this: He will make your righteousness shine like the dawn, the justice of your cause like the noonday sun.
People who simply talk, are negative, nag, and/or complain will drain you…People who have a high sense of entitlement, feel things should be free or given to them will do the same…People who always taking and using without expressing gratitude or returning favors will also suck you dry…People who expect you to do for them, take care of them, make demands or always have something to say but aren’t responsible in their own life will suck the life out of you as well! Don’t be a victim and if you already are or it’s ongoing, leave them or distance yourself. Your peace of mind, heart and wallet will thank you!
Being cheated on is probably one of the most terrifying and painful experiences you can have in a relationship and not because the person who cheated on you is so wonderful that the thought of losing them kills you ,(because obviously you can do better)but because it makes you doubt yourself.
It makes you doubt your intelligence, wisdom, discernment. Question how could I have not have known? How could I have trusted them? Could I trust anyone again?
It makes you doubt your “ love-ability”—what’s wrong with me? Am I annoying? Could they not stand to be in a relationship with me?
It exposes all of your insecurities—what does she/he have that I don’t have? Am I too fat? If I had only done x, y, and z maybe things would be different! Don’t let your mind play tricks on you like that. Accept accountability, I allowed my self to trust and have faith in you, and even though you hurt me, I will not let this destroy my ability to love and trust in future relationships.More importantly I will not take this baggage to the next relationship, I will be free when I walk into it.
Once you realize you deserve the BEST, losing people won’t even matter.
What consumes your mind, controls your life.
Why do our black men call our women bitches!? The answer is because we were conditioned into accepting it…its not like we enjoy or accept being degraded by our men. But after more than 250 years of being Americanized, we have lost our minds, and many African-American men have lost self-respect and respect for others.
The heart breaking reality is that some African American males, believe it’s okay to degrade African-American females. Too many of them refer to our sisters as “fine bitches,” “freaks,” and “hoes” without giving it a second thought. Ironically, as soon as someone calls their sister, auntie, grandma, or mother one of these degrading names they want to start moving furniture around! Smh sounds contradictory to me, but hey no one asked me right!?
Times has changed, when I was growing up and to hear a woman or men call another individual a “Bitch” it was sure to bring on a fight amongst other ugly petty names. In today society some females find it “cute” and “acceptable” to call their OWN friends bitch…it’s crazy.. I’ve seen and heard it myself. We females have used “Hey bitch,” and “aye bitch” like it’s a form of greeting to one another, like when did this become okay!? When did this become acceptable!? Did I miss something!? Oh, wait!? It’s different because we’re females and we can get away with it suppose a men greeting us that way, is what society is teaching us, right!? HELL NO! Disrespect is DISRESPECT whether it comes out of a woman or man mouth. PERIOD. The same accountability we hold our men we should be holding our sisters in the same spotlight.
There’s a lot of different things that goes into perspective as to why a man would call a woman a bitch…how was the male raised? What peers did he socialize with growing up? What respect does he have for women? All of these questions come into play, for example just because a male was raised in a very strict, respectable household doesn’t mean as he was growing up and his peers he socialize with gave him a different perspective on women and that caused him to call women bitches for whatever reason. It all comes down to RESPECT at the end of the day. A ruthless drug dealer from the outside looking in you would thing he degrades every woman he comes in contact with, compared to a graduated from Harvard and is now a surgeon. Background, ethnicity, age, lifestyle, etc none of that matters, a man will respect what he values and that’s the bottom line.
Hey peeps! Askeyenah is here to tell you what I know and if your lucky and smart enough, well hopefully you’ll walk away with something to share or sip tea with someone else. So with that being said…..STAY TUNED.